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Huwag Maging Bitter Ocampo

Choose to forgive not because they deserve your forgiveness but because you deserve to live in peace

Nasaktan ka ba ng ibang tao?
Kaibigan mong matalik, ka-opisina mong tinulungan, asawa, o kaibigan ng mga kamag-anak mo?
Makita mo pa lang ang anino niya, tumataas na ang dugo mo?
Marinig mo lang ang pangalan niya, umiinit na ang ulo mo?
Maalala mo lang siya, nag-iiba na ang mood mo?

Ganito ba katindi ang bitterness mo?
‘Yung tipong wala nang mapaglalagyan ang galit sa puso dahil nag-uumapaw na ito sa bitterness?
Sa sobrang galit mo, nangungulubot na mala-ampalaya at naging mapait na ang kwento ng buhay mo?

“Chinkee, kung alam mo lang kung ano ang sinabi at nagawa niya sa akin…maiintindihan mo rin ako.”

I do agree! I cannot say I understand exactly what you feel dahil hindi ko naman siya pinagdaanan.

Pero maniwala tayo o hindi…kung tayo ay naging bitter, tayo ay nagiging alipin ng taong kinaiinisan natin.

If we are holding on to anger and resentment, then sad to say – you are controlled by someone else.

If you want to be free, don???t choose bitterness.
If you want to live a happy life, don???t choose bitterness.
If you want to grow, don???t choose bitterness.
If you want to have peace of mind, don???t choose bitterness.
If you want to have fulfillment, don???t choose bitterness.
If you want to have joy in your heart, don???t choose bitterness.

Bitterness is a poison. Akala natin nakakaganti tayo, akala natin nalalason natin ang kagalit natin, pero di natin alam, tayo ang nalalason ng sarili nating bitterness. Bitterness kills our joy and steals our peace. Kahit saang anggulo natin tingnan, walang maganda at mabuting maidudulot ang bitterness sa ating mga buhay – pati na rin sa buhay ng mga taong nasa paligid natin. Kapag patuloy nating inalagaan ang bitterness sa puso natin, unti-unti tayo nitong gagawing halimaw.

Here are three practical steps to liberate ourselves from bitterness:


Kahit hindi humingi ng kapatawaran sa iyo ang taong nakasakit ng iyong damdamin, just forgive. It’s for your own good. We forgive not because it???s the fair thing to do, but because it???s the right thing to do. Forgiving means leaving vengeance in God???s hand and trusting that He will take care of everything.


Hindi naman kailangang makalimot ka agad at maibalik ulit sa dati ang lahat. It???s a process and it will take time to restore everything. But it???s very important for us to step forward and go on with our lives. Don???t let bitterness stop us from growing. Let???s just learn from our experience and move on.


Let???s commune with God. Sa Kanya natin hugutin ang grace, love, and forgiveness na kailangan nating ibigay sa mga taong nakasakit sa atin.
Yes, hindi deserving ng ating kapatawaran ang mga taong gumawa ng mali sa atin, but we should remember that we, too, don???t deserve God???s grace and forgiveness, but HE gave it anyway. We can ask God to help us. He listens and He is able to free us from the chain of bitterness.

At the end of the day, we have a choice. We cannot blame other people on why we are bitter because we always have a choice.


Have you experienced bitterness towards someone?
What’s the result?
Are you ready to break free from bitterness?

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