Single Blog

SHY KA BA?

Have you ever experienced being laughed at, o yung mapahiya kapag nasa harapan ng klase, mga kaopisina, o sa maraming tao?

Ikaw ba yung takot magsalita o kumilos ng malaya at normal? Yung tipong bigla ka nalang maba-blanko at biglang hindi maalala ang sasabihin at gagawin mo, sabay pagpapawisan ka na ng malamig, may pakiramdam na may butterfly sa iyong tiyan, at manginginig sa nerbyos?

Eh yung hirap makitungo sa iba kasi naco-conscious ka parati na baka mali ang gawin at sabihin mo?

Kung sumagot ka ng matinding ???OO!???, SHYNESS o pagkamahiyain ang tawag doon.

In my seminar, ???SPEAK & GROW RICH??? I was asked the question,“Chinkee, bakit parang effortless ka na tumayo sa harapan o makipagusap maski sa ibang taong hindi naman halos mo kilala?”Madaming dahilan pero, allow me to sight some reasons:

#1- Maaring hindi tayo masyado na expose sa tao. We grew up na hindi naman tayo ang nasa limelight o hindi tayo nabuild up— laging pamilya o kapitbahay lang ang nakilala at nakamulatan natin.

#2- We were humiliated before. Na kaya tayo takot, iniisip natin na ???Nako baka mali nanaman ang masabi ko o galaw, mapahiya nanaman ako???. There???s a sense of FEAR na hindi na natin nakalimutan dahil naging trauma na ito sa atin.

#3- Bullying. Maaring naging biktima na tayo nito dati, na sa sobrang dalas tayong pinagmamalupitan, you already lost your self-confidence kasi bumaba na ang tingin mo sa sarili mo; ang tingin mo nalang kasi, katiting kalang sa mata ng iba.

Lahat ng sinabi ko na mga dahilan ay pinagdaanan ko. Mahilig ako mag-isa at piling-pili lang ang mga friends ko. Madalas din ako mapahiya lalo na sa recitation sa school at hindi nawawala na nabully din ako. I was given the name of ???PANDAK PIRATE.??? Sakit nun, pandak na, pirate pa!

So what do you need to do now? How can you overcome your shyness ng hindi ka nahihirapan at napapag-iwanan if you need to deal with people?

STRENGTHEN YOUR SELF IMAGE!
Be proud of your skills, talents, and abilities; dahil sa sarili mong paniniwala magsisimula ang pag gain mo ng self-confidence at hindi sa ibang tao. Sabi nga, don???t be too busy comparing yourself to others; instead, think of ways to improve what has been given to you. Next, BE YOURSELF! Hindi mo naman kailangang magpanggap para magustuhan ka ng ibang tao, we are all created unique, use it to your advantage.

PRACTICE! Mag practice ka sa harap ng salamin or start by mingling with other people, from there matututunan mong makipag-usap sa iba paunti unti ng hindi ka ninenerbyos.

FOCUS ON THE MOMENT. Kadalasan kasi inuunahan natin ang sitwasyon by thinking na ???baka pag sinabi o ginawa ko to, mapahiya lang ako??? NO! Kaya tayo nawawala sa momentum kasi nangunguna tayo, just enjoy the flow of the conversation or situation and just do your best.

Remember these four basic steps at magugulat nalang kayo on how these things will improve and boost your confidence in ability to deal with people.

THINK. REFLECT. APPLY

Is your self esteem low because you can???t seem to get along and talk to people without feeling nervous?
Do you want to do something about this?
What are your skills and talents that you can be proud of?

never-allow-shyness-ruin-good-opportunities

Comments (0)

Smart Money Habits vs. Poor Money Habits

Hi there, Mr. Chink Positive here.

I have recently released a book entitled Raising Up Moneywise Kids. If you haven’t checked it out yet, you can do so here.

Now, feel free to download my free guide on how to know smart money habits from poor money habits, which I believe can help you not just in raising moneywise kids, but also in your own financial disciplines and personal financial life. After all, your financial habits determine your financial life.
I want to read it!
FEATURED DOWNLOAD -

HOW I MADE MY 1ST MILLION

What if there was a book that gave you the opportunity to earn a million pesos? Will you grab the chance or will you let it pass you by?
The choice is in your hands.

Highly regarded businessman-turned-wealth-coach, Chinkee Tan, has more than a decade’s worth of business experience under his belt. Chinkee Tan has helped fifty Filipinos earn their first million and YOU can be the next one.
DOWNLOAD NOW
FEATURED DOWNLOAD -

For richer & For Poorer

No one wants to stay poor and penniless. There are lots of books out there that talk about just that – getting rich and getting rich fast. Books authored by successful businessmen and motivational speakers that try to convince us that their advice is the best way to get rich. Becoming a millionaire has become one of the main goals of most people.

I’ve found that, while ther is no fool-proof way to get rich, there are some principles that we can learn that will definitely increase our chances of getting rich. My goals in writing this book are to Inform, Educate, and Motivate. Finally, it is also my goal to Disturb you.
DOWNLOAD NOW
FEATURED DOWNLOAD -

TILL DEBT DO US PART

RENEW and Change your mindset to chink positive 
REFOCUS your PERSPECTIVE to look at the positive not on the negative. 
OVERCOME trials, hardships, failures, challenges or even depression. 
Change your old habit into a NEW HABIT for a NEW YOU 
Create your VISION, your STRATEGY and your ACTION PLAN to turn your dreams into a reality. 
To be INSPIRE and be EMPOWERED so that you also inspire and empower others.
DOWNLOAD NOW
FEATURED DOWNLOAD -

SECRETS OF THE RICH AND SUCCESSFUL

Let’s face it, everyone wants to become rich. Some have even dedicated their lives to pursue riches, making it part of their lifelong dream.

But here’s one important thing we need to understand: money is just a means to something, but it is never the end. In other words, money is merely a tool to buy something.
DOWNLOAD NOW