Have you ever encountered someone na wala nang nakitang mabuti
kundi puro pagkakamali ng ibang tao?
Walang ibang bukambibig kundi masasakit na salita
o kaya naman ay kapintasan ng iba?
Given this, alam n’yo rin ba na
the absolute worst way to make people
not to trust us or even hate us
is when we, ourselves, correct them without love.
Or even pointing people their mistakes
without looking or reflecting on ourselves first.
SELF-CHECK MUNA TAYO
The best mirror to check on what right or wrong that we did,
aside from other people, is ourselves.
We may also see ourselves through the opinion of other people towards our behavior or attitude.
The way we see ourselves are most likely different
from how people sees us.
We can ask ourselves these questions:
“Naging mabuti ba ako sa ibang tao?”
“O puro pagkakamali na lang nila ang pinapansin ko?”
“Masyado ba akong perfectionist?”
“Wala ba akong pagkakasala para punahin ang ibang tao?”
“Nasa lugar ba ako para magpuna?”
HEART-CHECK RIN KUNG KINAKAILANGAN
Better if we can also check the motives of our hearts.
Sabi nga sa isang libro,
“Out of the abundance of our hearts, our mouth speaks.”
Kung ang puso natin ay hindi tama ang motibo
kung bakit tayo ay madalas pumuna ng mali sa tao,
better to ask ourselves these questions
kung para saan bakit mahilig tayong pumuna:
“Para ba ito sa ikabubuti niya?”
“O para ipahiya siya?”
“Para ipamukha na mas mabuti ako kaysa sa kanya?”
“O para ipadama na kaya siya kino-correct because I care?”
“Ginagawa ko ba ito for his self-improvement o para sa sarili ko?”
ALWAYS REFLECT ON OURSELVES FIRST BAGO PUMUNA NG IBA
Ang mga tanong na ibinabato natin sa ating sarili
ay nakatutulong para mag-reflect at mag-check
kung nasa tama pa ba, makatarungan pa ba, o nakabubuti pa ba
kung para saan at bakit natin pinupuna ang ibang tao,
kung ang sarili natin ay hindi naman natin mapabuti.
Always remember that we are all equal in the eyes of God.
Malaki man o maliit na pagkakamali ay pagkakamali pa rin.
Lahat tayo ay may tendency na madapa, masaktan at makasakit.
Pero lagi sana nating tandaan na bago tayo pumuna ng ibang tao,
tingin muna tayo sa ating sariling puso.
“Bago natin punahin ang pagkakamali ng iba, tanungin muna natin ang ating sarili kung tayo ay naging mabuti ba. ”
-Chinkee Tan. Filipino Motivational Speaker.
THINK. REFLECT. APPLY.
- How do we see others whenever our friends or colleagues make mistakes?
- Basta-basta na lang ba tayo naninita nang hindi man lang tinitingnan ang sarili?
- What steps can we take to change our character today regarding this matter?
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Chinkee Tan is a Wealth Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Best-selling Author on personal finance and wealth management. He has written 16 best-selling books and counting. His mission is to equip millions of Filipinos to be free from financial stress & experience financial freedom.