ARE YOU READY TO HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE?

Ang happily ever after sa pag-aasawa ay hindi batay sa swerte. Kailangan ang pagmamahal at pag-unawa sa araw-araw ay maging parte.

Couples who are very happy in their marriage will tell you that they never got the tips from attending seminars nor reading books and articles. They will most likely tell you that they learn by experience – trial and error.

Here are 10 principles of couples who are happily married. If you want to achieve your goal of having a happy, not perfect but happy marriage, read on.

Table of Contents

1. HAPPINESS IS NOT THE GREATEST THING.

Every married couple wants to be happy but they also know that happiness will come and go. Couples who are truly happy realize this and are willing to bring back that happiness when life pulls it away from them.

2. HAPPY COUPLES UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF SHOWING UP.

When things get tough and couples are tempted to give up, they need to make a conscious decision to hang in there and to actually show up for their spouse.

3. DOING THE SAME THINGS WILL GET YOU THE SAME RESULTS.

When couples learn to diversify the way they handle problems, they will most likely get different results and oftentimes, these small changes in the way couples approach problems will bring good results.

4. YOUR ATTITUDE MATTERS.

Changing behavior is consequential, but so is modifying attitudes. Bad attitudes often drive bad feelings and actions.

5. YOU CHANGE YOUR MARRIAGE WHEN YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND.

The way couples think and what they believe about their spouse affects how they perceive the other. How one spouse treats the other matters greatly.

6. THE GRASS IS GREENEST WHERE YOU WATER IT.

You’ve probably heard about “the grass is greener” myth. Well, happy couples learn to put their energy into their own marriage and they know how to work to make their marriage better.

7. CHANGE YOUR MARRIAGE BY CHANGING YOURSELF, NOT YOUR SPOUSE.

Trying to change your spouse is like trying to push a rope – impossible, isn’t it? Happy couples understand that the only way they can change their marriage is by changing themselves first.

8. LOVE IS AN ACTION WORD.

There is always the “feel good” side of marriage but happy couples discover that everyday life wears this feeling away. But real love, on the other hand, will choose to decide to act on that feeling.

9. STOP HOLDING GRUDGES.

Happy couples remember that they married an imperfect person every time they are tempted to hold a grudge or bring up past hurts.

10. A CRISIS DOESN’T MEAN THE MARRIAGE IS OVER.

To get through a storm, you need to keep driving. And that’s how crises in marriage are – like storms: scary and dangerous. In marriage you need to keep driving and acknowledge that its pain that produces great marriages.

“Ang happily ever after sa pag-aasawa ay hindi batay sa swerte. Kailangan ang pagmamahal at pag-unawa sa araw-araw ay maging parte.”

– Chinkee Tan, Filipino Motivational Speaker

THINK. REFLECT. APPLY.