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BAKIT BA HINDI AKO MAKATANGGI?

Ikaw ba yung taong hirap tumanggi sa gusto ng iba?
Na tipong mag-iisip ka muna ng kunwari pero kaunting pakiusap o paghikayat lang, sa bandang huli bibigay ka din? Naransan mo na ba yung kahit alam mo sa sarili mo na ayaw mo dahil mahihirapan ka, heto ka???t napilitan dahil you want to please and satisfy others?

Na experience mo na ba ito? May pinapagawa sa yo yung boss mo at kahit alam mo ang dami mong dapat tapusin at hindi pa nagagawa. Na pressure ka lang nang kaunti at ikaw naman itong: ???Sige po sir, kaya ko po yan!!???
Kahit alam mo na lunod ka na at busy ka pa. Tapos sa huli, na-stress ka masyado dahil tambak ang iyong trabaho kaya kinailangan mo mag overtime.
Or ayaw mo naman talaga gumimik kasi may homework ka pa, pero dahil napilit ka ng mga kaibigan mo at sinabing, ???Bukas mo nalang gawin yan, madali lang yan???; naniwala ka at sumama sa kanila. Kinabukasan, puyat ka at mahirap pala yung homework, kaya hindi mo ito natapos at naapektuhan yun performance mo sa school.

Maraming tao kasi ang mahilig magbigay ng trabaho o gawain sa ibang tao. Lalo na pag alam nilang MADALI KANG PAKIUSAPAN. It may be your boss, co-workers, relatives or friends who do this. Sa totoo lang, minsan hindi natin pwedeng sisihin ang mga taong ito. Dahil tanggap ka lang ng tanggap at tango ka lang ng tango! Ang tanong? Bakit ka ba tanggap lang ng tanggap?

You got to know the main reason kung bakit laging ganyan?
Is it maybe because you want to PLEASE OTHERS?
Is it because you feel lesser of a person kung hindi mo silang pagbigyan?
Is it because natatakot ka na baka mapalitan ka at matanggal ka sa trabaho o magiging outcast ka kapag hindi mo sila pinagbigyan?
Kahit ano man ang reason , check mo muna kung valid ito o hindi. Call of duty ba ito or napipilitan ka lang gawin. Do you do it with joy or do you do it with pressure or stress?

Dahil sa sobra mong pagtatanggap, look at yourself now. Pagod na pagod ka na at punong-puno ka nang stress. You are only 25 years old pero mukha ka nang 45. Napagkakamalan ka ng kapatid ng mga magulang mo tuwing kayo ay lalabas. You do not deserve this kind of life. You deserve better!

Sa totoo lang, wala namang pwedeng magpressure at magpahirap ng buhay mo kung hindi ang IYONG SARILI.

Come on, huwag mong sabahin napipilitan ka. Ginusto mo rin yan!
Huwag mo ring sabihin na walang kang choice. Tinolerate mo yan! Kaya ngayon inaabuso ka!

They take advantage of you weakness for not learning how to say “NO!”
THIS IS MY TIP FOR YOU TODAY! LEARN HOW TO SAY, “NOOOOO!!!”

Practice tayo ha, say, “NOOOOO!!!”
Come on, say it out loud again, “NOOOOO!!!”

Manindigan ka naman. You don’t have to become a MAN PLEASER.
Focus mo sa buhay hindi dapat ang tao ang i-please mo kung hindi si God lang.
He should be your focus. Ask yourself, are you in any way pleasing man or your goal is to please God.

Huwag kang matakot na hindi ka tatanggapin. Tanggap ka naman ni Lord!
Huwag kang matakot na tatanggalin ka sa work. Si Lord naman ang PROVIDER mo!
Huwag kang matakot kung ano man ang kanilang sasabihin. Dahil if God is for you, who can be against you!

Get’s mo na? Time to set yourself free from stress and unwanted pressures in life.
TAKE YOUR TIME. Pag-isipan mo muna ang isang request or demand. Identify first the pros and cons of a probable decision and HOW WILL THIS AFFECT YOU in the end.

OFFER AN ALTERNATIVE If you decided to say NO, ask if you can do it the next day or if someone can help you finish it. BE HONEST and STRAIGHT with what you really feel in a manner that is still respectful. Remember, people will understand a sincere heart. NEVER UNDERESTIMATE the power of saying “NO.”

THINK.REFLECT. APPLY.

Are you ready to decide and make a stand for your own?
What are the things that YOU can say NO to?
Are you ready to please God, not man?

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