Do you find it difficult to say “NO” to other people?
Have you ever been in situations like these?
Your boss asks you to do something. Even if you already have a lot on your plate, you still say “Yes, sir! I’ll do it!.” You end up being so stressed all because you accommodated the task when you could have said “no.”
Your friends invite you to go out. You really can’t go because you have homework to finish, but because they insist, you eventually give in. The result? You lack sleep and don’t even have the energy to finish your homework.
People will always pass on tasks to you, especially because they know that you won’t turn them down. They may be your boss, co-workers, friends or even relatives. In reality, we really can’t blame them for depending on you too much, because you keep saying yes!
Why do you keep on saying YES? Why do you keep on accepting tasks even when you know you can’t handle it?
Is it because of the need to PLEASE OTHERS?
Is it because you feel less of a person if you don’t give in to their demands?
Is it because you are afraid to be replaced or fired if you don’t comply?
Whatever your reasons are, make sure that they are valid. You need to know whether you are doing them out of duty or because you feel forced to do it. Do you do it with joy or stress?
Because if you keep on saying “YES”, you will become tired and over stressed! You’re only 25 but you actually look 45! You deserve better!
The only person who can make your life difficult and stressful is YOU.
You cannot always say you were forced to do something. Admit it, you also wanted to do it! So, you can’t really say that you didn’t have a choice. If you feel overworked, stressed, tensed and abused, it is simply because you have chosen to give in.
So, HERE IS MY TIP FOR YOU TODAY:
LEARN TO SAY, “NOOOOO!!”
Let’s practice, “NOOOOO!!!”
Come on, say it out loud again, “NOOOOO!!!”
Learn to put your foot down.
You don’t have to become a PEOPLE-PLEASER.
Your life’s focus should be to please God alone, not man.
Are you afraid of rejection? The Lord accepts you for who you are.
Are you afraid of losing your job? The Lord is your provider.
Are you afraid of what other people will say about you? If God is for you, who can be against you?
“Strive to please God and not other people”
-Chinkee Tan, Top Motivational Speaker Philippines
THINK. REFLECT. APPLY.
- Are you ready to make a stand and say “No”?
- What are the things that YOU can say NO to?
- Are you ready to please God, and not man