Do you want doing things your own way?
Mabilis ka bang mainis?
Gusto mo ba agad-agad?
Hindi ba uso sa iyo ang grace period?
In other words, demanding ka ba?
Bakit nga ba may mga taong demanding?
Masama ba maging demanding?
Marahil, iilan lamang ito sa mga tanong na sumagi sa ating isipan.
Now, is being demanding good or bad?
Before I answer that question, let us first define the word demanding.
The dictionary defines demanding as making others work hard or to meet high standards.
Kung titingnan natin, parang mahirap sagutin kung ang pagiging demanding is a good or bad thing.
When people demand of us, parang napipilitan tayong maging excellent, to work hard, and to raise our standards.
Kumbaga, being given or being subjected to demands puts pressure on us to deliver. It can make us stronger, test our mettle, and hone our skills – which will eventually lead us to discover some strengths and abilities that we never knew we had.
Pero kailan ba nagiging masama ang pagiging demanding?
Here are my two cents on this:
KAPAG MAY NASISIRA NA MGA RELATIONSHIPS
Minsan nagkaka-friction na between the person who is demanding and the person who is being pressured or subjected to demands.
Aminin natin, most of the time, when we are bombarded with demands by people around us (boss, family, co-worker, friend, spouse, etc.), nagdudulot ito ng matinding stress sa atin.
And when we are under a lot of stress, mabilis tayong magalit at mainis. Kapag ganoon na ang sitwasyon, hindi malabong magkaroon ng conflict and when not resolved immediately, unti-unting masisira ang relationships.
KAPAG ANG MOTIVATION IS SELFISHNESS
Minsan, ang objective ng mga taong nagde-demand from us is to bring out the best in us. They want us to have a good life. They want to teach us a lesson or enrich us.
Pero most of the time, may mga taong demanding dahil wala silang ibang iniisip at iniintindi kundi ang kanilang mga sarili. If that’s the case, then it’s not a good thing.
KAPAG SOBRA NA
‘Ika nga ng isang kasabihan, lahat ng sobra ay masama. May mga demands na healthy at kapag ito ay sumobra, hindi na ito makakatulong sa ating kapwa.
Whenever we are tempted to be demanding, palagi nating isipin kung ano ba ang motivation natin when we demand.
Isipin natin kung makakabuti ba ito sa kapwa natin o makakasama. And lastly, ilagay natin ang ating sarili sa sapatos ng iba. Kung tayo ang nasa kalagayan nila, anong mararamdaman natin when people make unreasonable demands from us?
THINK. REFLECT. APPLY.
Are you demanding?
What’s your motive for being demanding?
How can we stop ourselves from being too demanding?
–Chinkee Tan, Filipino Motivational Speaker
Chinkee Tan is a famous motivational speaker in the Philippines. He specializes in topics such as personal development, building and strengthening relationships and financial management to name a few. To this day, he continues to inspire thousands of people through his books, free business seminars in the Philippines, social media and being invited to be a motivational corporate speaker to different organizations.