Nangyari na ba ito sa iyo? Iyak ka ng iyak; ilang oras, araw, linggo, buwan o taon na ang nasayang mo hindi ka pa din tumitigil sa kakangawa o kakaisip.
Hindi ka na kumakain, tulala, at laging wala sa sarili. There are so many things that already happened pero heto ikaw, napag iwanan na. Bakit, ano ba ang nangyari?
Meron ba kayong inaasahang mangyari na hindi natuloy? O yung handang handa kana sana gawin ang isang bagay pero biglang naiba yung sitwasyon kaya hindi na ito nangyari? Feeling mo unfair dahil hindi nangyari ang gusto mo?
Ang hirap nga niyan, pakiramdam mo kasi pinaglalaruan ka ng tadhana, ayan na eh, abot kamay na pero hindi pa nangyari. What’s even worst, eh yung agony mo during the process of grief and sadness.
That’s what happened to one of my letter sender. She has been married for the past 20 years now and lived a happy life. One day, bigla nalang nagbago yung pakikitungo ni mister sa kanya. Madalas na gabi kung umuuwi at kung tinantanong kung ano ang nangyari sa araw niya, ang sagot ay isang matipid na, “OK LANG O LA LANG.” Then finally after careful research and inquiring, na realize niya na meron ng mistress si mister na binabahay pa sa condo. That was the biggest blow in her life. And her question to me was kung ano ang gagawin niya?
In unfortunate events like these, how do we move on?
DECIDE TO LET GO OF YOUR PAIN. Because if you don’t, you’ll just keep on sabotaging yourself and will not make an effort to push yourself back up. You can’t have a self-pity party. Una, mag-isa ka lang at pangalawa, malungkot yung theme ng party. Tandaan mo na hindi masosolusyunan if you hold on to the pain of your problem. The only way you can do that is, you have to decide to FORGIVE. You got to DECIDE to let go of the pain.
Kapag nakapagdecide kana—
FOCUS ON THE PRESENT. Stop doing throwbacks and trying to remind yourself of the past, over and over again. Ask yourself, “Ano ang pwede kong gawin para makabawi ako sa nawalang pagkakataon o oras?”, “Paano ko ba masosolusyunan ang problema ko?”
Dahil sigurado ako, you want to move on to the next chapter of your life, kaya kumilos ka na.
And lastly, TRUST GOD’S PLAN. Lagi mo nalang sinisisi ang kung sino-sino sa nangyari sa iyo, iniisip mo na napaka unfair naman at sayo pa nangyari, pero lahat ng naging kilos at desisyon mo ay plano ng Panginoon. Dinala ka sa sitwasyong iyan para matuto at maipa-realize sa iyo ang iba pang bagay. I firmly believe in God’s promise; that all things work for good for those who are called according to His purpose.
Are you still on a self-pity party mode?
Are you ready to move on?
Are you ready to decide to forgive?
Chinkee Tan is a famous motivational speaker in the Philippines. He specializes in topics such as personal development, dealing with relationships within family, friends, work and other people and financial management techniques to name a few. He continues to inspire thousands of people through his books, free business seminars in the Philippines and being a motivational corporate trainer to different organizations.
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