Are you busy? So sobrang kabusyhan mo wala ka ng time para sa mga mahahalagang bagay sa buhay.
Dinaig mo pa si Darna sa dami ng gawain at agenda mo sa buhay. Trabaho dito, raket doon; mall dito, lakwatsa doon. Punong-puno ang kalendaryo mo ng sangkatutak na mga gawain sa buhay na wala kang panahon to pause and reflect sa mga nangyayari sa buhay mo. Even in your bed busy ka parin sa kakapanood ng TV, kakalaro sa gadget mo or sa kakaisip kung ano ang gagawin mo kapag pumasok ka sa office bukas.
I hope you don’t get me wrong na we will just do nothing at wala na tayong gagawin. I may say that I too have a busy schedule.This year of 2014 I am close to around 300 speaking engagements; that is around one speaking engagement per day.
Wala naman masamang maging busy, pero kung ang kabusyhan natin will lead us to live a lifestyle of stress, na nagkakasakit ka na, na wala ka ng time para sa mga mahal mo sa buhay, hindi na yata ito maganda.
I appreciate that you want to become productive but let us not miss the reason why we want to be busy. We want to be busy just because of becoming busy. We want to be busy because we want to achieve and hit a goal.
First thing first, you got to identify WHAT IS YOUR GOAL?
It does not matter how busy you are, but if you do not hit your target, our busyness means nothing.
My primary goal in life why I want to be BUSY is to provide for my family. My family does not only need the money, but my family also needs my time, my love, my affection, my mentoring, and specially my presence.
That is the reason why I have to fight for my time.
MONDAY IS THE DATE OF MY WIFE
I do not accept work on a Monday. It has been over 15 years that we have been setting aside Monday as our date day to invest time and grow in love with each other.
ONCE A MONTH I DATE MY KIDS
I have 3 kids, I see to it that me and my wife tag team and set aside once in a month to date and converse with our kids. Just going out to drink coffee and watch a movie with them to see and feel what is inside their mind.
Date your kids even if they are still young, get to know them.
They grow fast, really fast. Build quality time and relationship with them so once they grow, they will remember the days and times when you deposited time and love to them. So when the time comes, you can also withdraw time and love from them.
BLOCK OFF ALL SPECIAL DATES
I also make sure that all the birthdays, anniversaries, and special events will be block off from my calendar. To give priority to the important dates and events that happens in the life of the most important people in my life, such as my wife, kids, parents, and other siblings. (Whom you know and who are important to you and your family)
So I hope na balanse ko kung ano ang ibig kong sabihin. We want to become productive but we got to be reminded that we need to know our end GOAL.
If na-sstress ka na at nag-cocomplain na ang mga mahal mo sa buhay; It is time to pause and reflect…
Tama pa ba itong ginagawa ko? Ano ang dapat kong baguhin at aysuin sa routine ko para makamit ko yung goal ko? Ano ba ang goal mo? Na-identify mo na ba ito? Maliwanag ba ito sa iyo at sa mga mahal mo sa buhay?
Don’t you think it is time for you to step back and talk to your love ones and get them involved in what you are doing so they would understand and support you in your plans? Mas maganda na may support ka, kaysa ginagawa mo lahat ng abot mong makakaya pero di namn nila maintindihan kung bakit ka BUSY at walang oras para sa kanila.
IT IS TIME TO…
THINK. REFLECT. APPLY.
What is your goal? Why do you work so hard?
Na kokompromise na ba yung time mo sa mga mahal mo sa buhay?
What is your plan of action?
I hope that you will set a time to write down the most important things in your life and write down also you non-negotiables.
Chinkee Tan is a famous speaker in the Philippines known for his passion to speak and share about wealth and life. He has been invited here and there to be a motivational keynote speaker since he specializes in topics such as personal development, building and strengthening relationships and financial management to name a few.
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