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Please continue to keep on sharing so that we can help more people to strengthen their love life.
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Happy Wife, Happy Life Part 8
I really thank God that we’ve been mentored by great men and women; who taught us on how to treat one another with love, honor and respect.
There is one thing I have discovered about some habits we have in our relationships; your relationship can’t survive without?
It takes a lot of humility to admit that you are wrong.
It takes a lot of humility to say you are sorry.
It takes a lot of humility to let go of you’re feeling, and thinking about the feelings of others.
Practicing HUMILITY is never about finding out who is right or wrong. It is about reconnection and communication. It is never about trying to tear down one another; it is about building up and restoring one another. Both partners are looking towards one direction and that road leads to RECONCILIATION.
That is the reason why when I had the chance to interview Ogie Alcasid in my show CHINK POSITIVE at TV5; I asked him “What is your secret to a strong marriage with Regine?”
Ogie said; “Husband and wife must focus on loving and honouring God in their married life. If they focus on pleasing God, they would be more concern on how God feels rather than what they feel. They will be concern in pleasing God rather than pleasing their personal and selfish desires. God is not pleased when you are in pride and continue on hurting one another. The more you are focused on pleasing God, the easier for you to be humble, so that you may learn how to die to your own feelings and learn how to forgive.”
When I reflected on what he said; it made a lot of sense.
First; God is pleased when we are HUMBLE.
God gives grace to the HUMBLE & opposes the PROUD.
Second; God gave us the true definition of love as a guide found in (1 Cor. 13:4-7)
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.”
If you notice this is entirely the opposite of the feeling of PRIDE.
If you have pride you get easily envious; you are proud that you are right and your spouse is wrong.
It dishonors your partner because you want to humiliate them to prove something. It is self-seeking because you are more concern about your feelings. It is easily angered because you are fed up with the situation. You become historian because you always remind your spouse the past mistakes.
Did you notice the difference?
I thank God for He has given my wife and me the grace of HUMILITY.
One final story before I end this blog.
I can remember one time my wife asked me something, and caught me at a very bad time. I snapped. I can’t remember exactly what I said, but I can remember I replied with major tone and sarcasm. Her happy face turned sad; her beautiful face transformed into a monster.
The voice of PRIDE kicked in; “She deserved it; she was insensitive about the timing, and is pressuring you. Take your stand and let her be.”
The voice of HUMILITY then whispered, “Oh ooh! hurting your wife’s feeling is a big mistake; you’re doing it likewise to God. You dishonored her and also God. Go and apologize. Humble yourself, admit that you have done wrong, and beg for forgiveness.”
When the couple have the spirit of HUMILITY; which comes from GOD; both of you will be pulled together instead of being set apart.
You will be closer to one another instead of being far. You will build bridges instead of building walls.
Honestly; if I’m left on my own, I will never humble myself and forgive. But thank God for He has taught me and my wife to love Him more rather than loving ourselves. He has given me the grace, the power, and the ability to say no to the wrong things in life.
I cannot do it without His grace; for I acknowledged that apart from God, I AM NOTHING!
HUMILITY is the key to removing PRIDE in our lives. Our relationship should revolve around God, thus giving us humility.
THINK. REFLECT. APPLY.
Let us check and reflect.
Rate yourself from one to ten. One is the lowest and ten will be the highest. How is your humility level?
Do you mind who apologizes first?
What is the level and consistency of humility in your relationship?
“If PRIDE builds WALLS, HUMILITY builds BRIDGES.”- Rick Warren
TO ALL HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE FOLLOWERS;
I have good news; currently we are working out ways to have a live seminar.
I am looking forward to meet all of you face to face.
Let us pray that this will happen soon!
PS. Just finished my SECRETS OF THE RICH & SUCCESSFUL in CDO over 200 came and all books of the SECRETS were sold out. THANK YOU
-Chinkee Tan, Filipino Motivational Speaker
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